One of the ways I learn is through stories. Stories are also how God speaks to me sometimes because God speaks to each person in a way they can understand. It is thoroughly refreshing to know that we can’t miss God because God understands each person’s language. So, the fear of not hearing God is truly unfounded. You will experience God because He understands your language, and that’s how He will relate with you.

All of that to say, I appreciate transparency in people. If you can’t be truthful, then please don’t lie. Many people are blind-sided because someone dared to share an untruth. Speak the truth or keep quiet.

I had no idea how much this upset me until a conversation ensued between me and some friends. My homegirl had it bad for this guy, but I knew she didn’t see him right. The guy had baggage that only Jesus could handle. And I told her likewise. I know all about not getting involved in people’s lives, but if you belong to my circle even by an inch, be sure that your business is mine too.

Somehow, the conversation got into sex. I don’t even know how we went from one to a hundred, but it happened. My other friend said, “It’s okay to have sex with someone you truly like, but I wouldn’t recommend this guy.”

You should have seen my face. It had utter shock plastered on it. This girl had been sexually active with her boyfriend. I expected her to be truthful. But she lied through her teeth.

I came at her so hard, “You know, for a friend, it is so pathetic that you would lie. Our parents raised us in the Way, so each of us knows that sex should only happen in marriage. Unfortunately, you have done it. Why not tell us the truth?”

The logical question would be, “Why did I get so upset, and how could I know that she was lying?”


Nobody can break Scripture. God already gave us the blueprint for sex.

There’s more to sex than mere skin on skin. Sex is as much spiritual mystery as physical fact. As written in Scripture, “The two become one.” Since we want to become spiritually one with the Master, we must not pursue the kind of sex that avoids commitment and intimacy, leaving us more lonely than ever – the kind of sex that can never “become one.” There is a sense in which sexual sins are different from all others. In sexual sin, we violate the sacredness of our bodies, these bodies that were made for God-given and God-modeled love, for “becoming one” with another. Or didn’t you realize that your body is a sacred place, the place of the Holy Spirit? Don’t you see that you can’t live however you please, squandering what God paid such a high price for? The physical part of you is not some piece of property belonging to the spiritual part of you. God owns the whole works. So let people see God in and through your body.

1 Corinthians 6:16-20.

A few months later, while in conversation, she admitted that she regretted not staying a virgin. Many people jump into sexual activities because of pressure, money, or popularity. For my friend, it had just seemed like the next thing to do in the relationship.

She became a victim of a lie sponsored by media and liars. To make matters worse, she had so bought into the lies that she began to spread it too.

Sex is beautiful. God instituted sex, and His creations are good.

Can we sensibly read the product’s manual – the Bible, and use it as explained?

Nobody buys an iPhone and turns it into an Android. We all respect the brand and use it as intended. As a result, we enjoy maximum satisfaction.

Let us apply the Creator’s manual to sex and enjoy the results God intended.

13 thoughts on “SEX HAS A MANUAL!

  1. Great write up.
    God’s instituted purposes are sacrosanct and should be respected as such. We should remain within His boundaries and enjoy all His benefits.

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  2. You couldn’t have said it better. Loud it! There’s a container for sex – and that’s marriage. These rules given to us by God are ultimately for our good – to keep us from harm, pain, and suffering. The foundation of marriage must be built right to enjoy lasting results.

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